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You do not need a reason to be as you are. You are you. You are enough. I have been reflecting on the perils of believing that everything must be rationalised, and that reason is all. I often find that people can become trapped in a cycle of thinking, that they must find a reason for whatever is happening. Sometimes, if they can not, they can become stuck and defenceless, unable to act because they can not justify whatever it is that seems good to do. Recognising that r

I recently found myself discussing McClelland's theory of needs, a nd it prompted me to blog about it today. McClelland’s theory suggests...

Experience is about patterns.  There is structure and form to how we are, to what we perceive and to how we behave.  The work of...

Boundaries. A word that is used a lot, to mean many things, like any words its meaning depends on the user and the context. The Cambridge...

I’m in the process of deepening my skills in a trauma technique based on neuro-linguistic programming, a protocol called FIRST (Fast...

“I am not what happened to me I am who I choose to become” Carl Jung I love this powerful quote from one of the giants of the therapeutic...

It seems a good time to write a little about the effects of pregnancy and the relationship to mental health

Spirituality is about connection When I meet new clients, as part of our introductory exploration I always ask about spiritual and...

Your heart’s desire lights you up in your body.  It comes from inside.  It connects you to your purpose in the world. Powerful words,...

Space matters, and how we treat it matters too. The care we show for the things around us reflects the care we have for ourselves.  Our...

Do you feel you are good enough?  Adequate?  Sufficient?  Acceptable and loveable as you are? If you are not feeling enough, you are not...

Extending trust can be a risky business, and it’s often worth it. We have a choice with trust, we can grant it, or we can wait until...

Uncomfortable conversations are OK. Emotions are OK. Real matters. I wrote these three notes to myself a few days ago to remind me that I...

I’ve been exploring recently the reality that the meaning we make of things always depends on the context.  We can be quite certain of...

In my reading about Trauma and our responses to it, I’ve been drawn to noticing the fawn response, which is not talked about so much as...

Every life experience you have had has brought you to now, shaping who and how you are.  However wonderful or difficult, those...

I’ve recently submitted my 5-year re-accreditation to UKCP, the professional body for psychotherapists in the UK.  I was a touch nervous,...

The 29th February comes around only once every four years, so it seems a day worth marking.  It’s a quirk of the calendar that for most...

Going through some old files recently, I happened upon this verse./  I first heard it decades ago from a colleague, whose daughter had...

"Fall seven times, stand up eight." I saw this quote and it made me smile, there have been many times in life when I’ve needed this kind...