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It seems a good time to write a little about the effects of pregnancy and the relationship to mental health

Reality is a construct, it is our own, individual experience of the things that happen within and around us.  Neuro-science is...

In my reading about Trauma and our responses to it, I’ve been drawn to noticing the fawn response, which is not talked about so much as...

Working with couples, I often find that one or both of the couple feel lonely, despite being in a relationship.  It’s a difficult issue,...

Here’s a piece I assisted Psychologies magazine with some time ago, about speaking up.  I hope it resonates and helps you find your...

“In order for a child to become kind, giving and empathetic, he needs to be treated that way…A child raised with love wants to make those...

“The truth is you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved.  The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.”...

“Like a tree, our growth depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and shed defences we no longer need.” Daily OM I received an...

The most common thing couples say they want when they come into couples psychotherapy is to communicate better. This week I’m sharing a...

Today I want to talk about the idea of sponsorship. Sponsorship is the process of holding a space open for people to enter, explore, and...

However much Hollywood or Disney persuade otherwise, it’s not realistic to believe you can have a relationship and not have any conflict...

“The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it myself” conditioning is a...

Where you look at a situation from significantly changes your perspective. In neuro-lingistic programming, we describe the different...

“Offer what you have to offer Offer it with love Let go of having it work” I heard this lovely sentiment many, many years ago at an NLP...

“Offer what you have to offer Offer it with love Let go of having it work” I heard this lovely sentiment many, many years ago at an NLP...

It’s the holiday season, and I’ve been lucky enough to spend more time than usual with my family. One of the things I have really...

“intimacy is the process of being in touch with or knowing oneself in the presence of a partner” David Schnarch In psychotherapy, it is...

It’s a lovely moment in therapy when a client suddenly gains a new perspective. Oftentimes, the pain that brings people to see me is...

I have a big patch of clover in my back garden. It’s quite prominent, and just now it’s beginning to flower. Beautiful. The thing is,...

Here’s a useful infographic about boundaries. It’s a word bandied about a lot, and it's good to look practically at what it actually...