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You do not need a reason to be as you are. You are you. You are enough. I have been reflecting on the perils of believing that everything must be rationalised, and that reason is all. I often find that people can become trapped in a cycle of thinking, that they must find a reason for whatever is happening. Sometimes, if they can not, they can become stuck and defenceless, unable to act because they can not justify whatever it is that seems good to do. Recognising that r

I came across a new simple self-soothing technique, and I do love to share ideas when I find something helpful. You're probably well aware that paying attention to, and modifying, your breathing is a powerful way to change your physiological state. When you feel yourself being activated - moving into fight-flight-freeze - you can use the breath to help you restore your body into a relaxed, calm way of being. Here's a great way of doing it. Breath in, and on each out-breath,

I learned a new word...and I love learning about language and meanings. So, my word today is antonym. It means the opposite. So, the opposite of dark is light, of up is down, of left is right. Simple, right? Well, not always. Oftentimes in psychotherapy it is very useful to find out what the antonym is for words clients use. For example, a client tells me they do not want to be anxious any more. What does that mean? For one person it may mean they want to be calm. For

“Deep in your wounds are seeds waiting to grow beautiful flowers.” Niti Majethia This idea what what seems to be in the way IS the way is a powerful one.  Wounds call our attention to where it is needed, they offer us the opportunity to heal and grow.  Like water lilies growing beautiful blooms out of the mud at the bottom of a pond, our pain and suffering are the mud of existence that enable us to grow flowers, some robust and in rude health, others seeming impossibly fragil

I'm delighted to now be using my married name - Fe Chrichard. Despite my personal name change my business will continue to be Fe Robinson Psychotherapy Ltd for continuity and my contact details remain unchanged. You can get in touch on 01325 790495 or fejrobinson@gmaiul.com .

“When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.” —Winston Churchill What a superb quote. You can not be manipulated or controlled unless you somehow enable this by gifting the power to the other. When you tame the enemies within - the patterns of thinking, the assumptions, the insecurities, the fears - you can learn to stand strong and to be present in your own energy and stand up for what you believe is right.  When you do this, people will sense it and

Here are some of the more common anchors I hear that work for people

As a couples therapist I have a responsibility to make sure that my couples clients get the best value possible from the investment they...

I recently found myself discussing McClelland's theory of needs, a nd it prompted me to blog about it today. McClelland’s theory suggests...

Experience is about patterns.  There is structure and form to how we are, to what we perceive and to how we behave.  The work of...

Clients come to psychotherapy because they want something to be different to the way things are now. This can be in many different ways,...

My supervisor many moons ago pointed out to me that the client we were discussing was in a hole, and that unfortunately I had climbed in...

Boundaries. A word that is used a lot, to mean many things, like any words its meaning depends on the user and the context. The Cambridge...

I’m in the process of deepening my skills in a trauma technique based on neuro-linguistic programming, a protocol called FIRST (Fast...

When I was a trainee therapist many moons ago, my then supervisor shared these words of wisdom with me.   “Offer what you have to offer...

“I am not what happened to me I am who I choose to become” Carl Jung I love this powerful quote from one of the giants of the therapeutic...

I was walking through the park today, and a clasp of feathers floated down from the trees I was walking under and landed right in front...

I am delighted to return from maternity leave fully from 1st September and to now be in a position to take on new clients. I am working...

It seems a good time to write a little about the effects of pregnancy and the relationship to mental health

Using sound to impact mood A wonderful conversation recently reminded me of the power of sound to affect a person’s mental state.  Music,...