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Being authentic is the key to a happy intimate relationship.  You do not need to pretend to be anything you are not.  You will thrive in...

"Fall seven times, stand up eight." I saw this quote and it made me smile, there have been many times in life when I’ve needed this kind...

It is an irony that so often clients come into psychotherapy hoping that I have the answers to their difficulties, when the only person...

“In order for a child to become kind, giving and empathetic, he needs to be treated that way…A child raised with love wants to make those...

Metaphors are powerful.  When we think of one thing in terms of another that symbolises or represents it, the resulting metaphor is...

“The truth is you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved.  The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.”...

An elderly Cherokee was imparting wisdom to his grandson about life. "There's a battle within me," he told the boy, "a fierce clash...

I recently received this very useful list of websites and contact for mental health and wellbeing in the Darlington area.  Please spread...

I’ve long had a daily practice in my home that we find energising and uplifting.  We like to do it as a family, but it’s just as useful...

“Like a tree, our growth depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and shed defences we no longer need.” Daily OM I received an...

The most common thing couples say they want when they come into couples psychotherapy is to communicate better. This week I’m sharing a...

‘To behold all beings with the eye of compassion, and to speak kindly to them, is the meaning of tenderness…Whenever one speaks kindly to...

“If you want to see the brave, look at those who can forgive. If you want to see the heroic, look at those who can love in return for...

I offer psychotherapy to individuals and couples based in Darlington, and working online for UK clients.  I work in an outcome-oriented...

Happiness comes in many guises – on the one hand you’ve got the hedonistic delight of eating your favourite chocolate, on the other is...

Happy New Year! As one year has ended and 2024 begins, it’s a good time to reflect and look forwards. A year is a long time, with many...

I. I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever...

Responsibility can be a tricky concept to work with in psychotherapy.  It is a double edged sword.  On the one side, it is a given that a...

After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning...

I welcomed Sheela Na Gig into my workspace recently, she is an ancient pagan symbol that represents both birth, and death.  The artist of...