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If you’re thinking of working with a therapist, it’s a good idea to be clear about what is prompting you, and what you would like to have happen as you prepare for therapy. A good therapist is sure to ask you what is bringing you and what you want to focus on. Here are some questions to reflect on to help you feel prepared and confident when you are looking for a new therapist: 1. What brings you to therapy? 2. Why now? 3. What are your goals for therapy? 4. What will b

“The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear.” Rumi Oftentimes, clients come into #psychotherapy with a lot to say. Stories, feelings, thoughts and beliefs have been pent up, and the different context gives an outlet for them to flow like a river, as the client freely associates across time and space to tell their story as they perceive it. When this occurs, it’s always a judgement call to work out when to listen, and when to intervene. Bessel can set Kolk wisely c

As a couples therapist I have a responsibility to make sure that my couples clients get the best value possible from the investment they...

My supervisor many moons ago pointed out to me that the client we were discussing was in a hole, and that unfortunately I had climbed in...

“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being...

Possibility thinking can be a powerful, energising practice. It can also be a boon when times are tough and you are feeling stuck. It’s...

Extending trust can be a risky business, and it’s often worth it. We have a choice with trust, we can grant it, or we can wait until...

I’ve been exploring recently the reality that the meaning we make of things always depends on the context. We can be quite certain of...

If you’re thinking of working with a therapist, it’s a good idea to be clear about what is prompting you, and what you want to have...

In my reading about Trauma and our responses to it, I’ve been drawn to noticing the fawn response, which is not talked about so much as...

Every life experience you have had has brought you to now, shaping who and how you are. However wonderful or difficult, those...

I’ve recently submitted my 5-year re-accreditation to UKCP, the professional body for psychotherapists in the UK. I was a touch nervous,...

"Silence is the most powerful scream." I saw this quote, and internally felt a strong ‘ouch.’ It really spoke to me of the unknown...

Here’s a piece I assisted Psychologies magazine with some time ago, about speaking up. I hope it resonates and helps you find your...

It is an irony that so often clients come into psychotherapy hoping that I have the answers to their difficulties, when the only person...

I’ve long had a daily practice in my home that we find energising and uplifting. We like to do it as a family, but it’s just as useful...

Responsibility can be a tricky concept to work with in psychotherapy. It is a double edged sword. On the one side, it is a given that a...

In therapeutic work we are addressing the individual and unique expressions that a person has. At the same time, we are working with...

I’m on a voyage of discovery with new words at the moment, the one I want to blog about today is velleity. The dictionary definition is...

“Allow the raw grief and anger travel every cell of your being. Scream at the dying of the light and the injustice of the hell you were...