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I’ve recently submitted my 5-year re-accreditation to UKCP, the professional body for psychotherapists in the UK.  I was a touch nervous,...

The 29th February comes around only once every four years, so it seems a day worth marking.  It’s a quirk of the calendar that for most...

Working with couples, I often find that one or both of the couple feel lonely, despite being in a relationship.  It’s a difficult issue,...

Going through some old files recently, I happened upon this verse./  I first heard it decades ago from a colleague, whose daughter had...

"Silence is the most powerful scream." I saw this quote, and internally felt a strong ‘ouch.’  It really spoke to me of the unknown...

Here’s a piece explaining Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) which can be used to help with a range of symptoms...

Here’s a piece I assisted Psychologies magazine with some time ago, about speaking up.  I hope it resonates and helps you find your...

Being authentic is the key to a happy intimate relationship.  You do not need to pretend to be anything you are not.  You will thrive in...

"Fall seven times, stand up eight." I saw this quote and it made me smile, there have been many times in life when I’ve needed this kind...

It is an irony that so often clients come into psychotherapy hoping that I have the answers to their difficulties, when the only person...

“In order for a child to become kind, giving and empathetic, he needs to be treated that way…A child raised with love wants to make those...

Metaphors are powerful.  When we think of one thing in terms of another that symbolises or represents it, the resulting metaphor is...

“The truth is you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved.  The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.”...

An elderly Cherokee was imparting wisdom to his grandson about life. "There's a battle within me," he told the boy, "a fierce clash...

I recently received this very useful list of websites and contact for mental health and wellbeing in the Darlington area.  Please spread...

I’ve long had a daily practice in my home that we find energising and uplifting.  We like to do it as a family, but it’s just as useful...

“Like a tree, our growth depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and shed defences we no longer need.” Daily OM I received an...

The most common thing couples say they want when they come into couples psychotherapy is to communicate better. This week I’m sharing a...

‘To behold all beings with the eye of compassion, and to speak kindly to them, is the meaning of tenderness…Whenever one speaks kindly to...

“If you want to see the brave, look at those who can forgive. If you want to see the heroic, look at those who can love in return for...