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Uncomfortable conversations are OK. Emotions are OK. Real matters. I wrote these three notes to myself a few days ago to remind me that I...

In my reading about Trauma and our responses to it, I’ve been drawn to noticing the fawn response, which is not talked about so much as...

“The truth is you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved.  The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.”...

“Like a tree, our growth depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and shed defences we no longer need.” Daily OM I received an...

Today I want to talk about the idea of sponsorship. Sponsorship is the process of holding a space open for people to enter, explore, and...

“The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it myself” conditioning is a...

Working as a psychotherapist, I have a pretty continual stream of relationships that begin, and end. It’s a natural feature of my work...

“Offer what you have to offer Offer it with love Let go of having it work” I heard this lovely sentiment many, many years ago at an NLP...

“Offer what you have to offer Offer it with love Let go of having it work” I heard this lovely sentiment many, many years ago at an NLP...

“intimacy is the process of being in touch with or knowing oneself in the presence of a partner” David Schnarch In psychotherapy, it is...

It’s a lovely moment in therapy when a client suddenly gains a new perspective. Oftentimes, the pain that brings people to see me is...

Here’s a useful infographic about boundaries. It’s a word bandied about a lot, and it's good to look practically at what it actually...

Dissociation can be a challenging psychological symptom to work with. When dissociated, people experience themselves less directly. ...

In several contexts this week I’ve been reminded of the power of being clear about boundaries. The word boundary is a noun, and it’s...

Many moons ago, when I trained in NLP, I was fortunate to have a course rich with content about expanding awareness into that which us...

A colleague who works with families introduced me to a lovely exercise recently that captured my imagination. Aimed at increasing...

I was reflecting recently on the deep interconnectedness that exists between humans, other humans, our ecosystem, fellow animals and our...

“A conversation about how you feel is not supposed to end in an argument” The Mind Journal I’ve been reflecting recently on themes of...

I was reflecting recently on the deep interconnectedness that exists between humans, other humans, our ecosystem, fellow animals and our...

We all have habitual ways of behaving. They are comfortable and normal, and mostly they are not even on our radar, we just act and speak...