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I hate the idea of work-life balance. Why is work treated as an opposite that is somehow separate from life? Most people spend so much...

When I opened my copy of Matt Haig’s new book The Comfort Book, it was with some excitement, I am a big fan. A few seconds later these...

These words were the final verse of a poem I wrote a while back, they leave me with a smile. We each are one, whole and complete And yet...

We come to know ourselves through our interactions with other people. It’s a bit like others hold up a mirror to us, we see ourselves...

I’ve been pondering Erik Erikson’s theory of psycho-social development of late, which sets out eight stages of development along our way...

The work of psychotherapy is vast and deep. Themes running through the many ways it can help are enabling clients to learn how to...

“When your eyes seek and your heart is open, that is true brave” - Anne with an E I just loved this line when I heard it while watching...

When we are traumatised, it is usual to believe we are damaged, broken, and even beyond repair. Ana Gomez has a lovely re-frame for...

Couples counselling works best when there is a common goal that is meaningful and congruent for both partners. Where this is not the...

These words speak so eloquently for themselves, I hope they touch you as they do me. Epitaph - By Merrit Malloy When I die Give what’s...

“Colours are the smiles of nature” Leigh Hunt Wishing you a weekend filled with nature’s colours. Here’s a splash I found by the River...

I discovered recently that the root of the word alone is all-one. Clarissa Pinkola Estes expresses this beautifully, saying “To be all...

I was recently asked some excellent questions: Where do I live as a therapist? What lenses do I use to see through the clinical landscape...

A theme I often return to is play, and its importance. I was first introduced to this concept back in 2008 by Stephen Gilligan with his...

I was thrilled to receive a new fuchsia last week - a tall dark leaved variety with a profusion of flowers called ‘Bella.’ I’ve planted...

I often hear people saying they cope with emotions and thoughts by avoiding them. Sometimes, it may feel the only option available. ...

Time is a funny thing, while sometimes minutes can feel like hours, it’s also true that there are a limited number of hours in the week....

In my twenties, I recall going on a Dale Carnegie training course, and being told ‘seek first to understand, and then to be understood.’ ...

“Most people are afraid of suffering. But suffering is a kind of mud to help the lotus flower of happiness grow. There can be no lotus...

This is a question I ask each person who comes to see me for psychotherapy, in their first session. We talk about what is bringing them,...