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It seems natural to be distressed when something awful has happened. A death. A traffic accident. Abuse. Faced with situations like...

I often say I like contact with other people to be real. A few weeks ago, someone curiously asked, what does real mean to me? It was an...

We’re not always in touch with all of the capability, wisdom and resourcefulness we have inside. While we are all multi-faceted, it's...

Sometimes it is easy to lose trust in what you are experiencing. It may be that someone else somehow undermines you, convincing you that...

There are two key questions that many clients want to address when they come for an initial session of psychotherapy, and they are...

“Like a tree, our growth depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and shed defenses we no longer need.” Daily OM This quote popped...

I often blog about self-help techniques and approaches those interested can use to support their well-being and emotional health. I like...

I’m introducing another simple reflection tool today, one I met many moons ago when I trained as a life coach. It’s called a Life Wheel,...

Psychotherapy is intended to be an authentic encounter. An intimate, enabling space in which we as clients can be utterly who we are...

It’s hard to beat the feeling of really being with someone. That feeling of parent and child spontaneously connecting in an experience. ...

I frequently hear people talk about mindfulness as a way to inner peace. I hear it so often I feel compelled to write a little about my...

Sometimes, we can get caught in a trap of feeling continually ‘on.’ It may feel like you’re on a hamster wheel, needing to be in...

Before you make a change, it is important to be clear about what the current situation gives you. Remember that odd old phrase ‘don’t...

On a training course a while ago, I heard a metaphor for therapy that I liked. The trainer described the role of a therapist ole as that...

We come to know ourselves through our interactions with other people. It’s a bit like others hold up a mirror to us, we see ourselves...

I’ve been pondering Erik Erikson’s theory of psycho-social development of late, which sets out eight stages of development along our way...

I was recently asked some excellent questions: Where do I live as a therapist? What lenses do I use to see through the clinical landscape...

I was thrilled to receive a new fuchsia last week - a tall dark leaved variety with a profusion of flowers called ‘Bella.’ I’ve planted...

Time is a funny thing, while sometimes minutes can feel like hours, it’s also true that there are a limited number of hours in the week....

In my twenties, I recall going on a Dale Carnegie training course, and being told ‘seek first to understand, and then to be understood.’ ...