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I’ve made a few changes in my office lately, increasing my level of physical comfort when I am working. I’m noticing a significant...

“The fear of receiving resonates in the deepest levels of the psyche. To receive is to let life happen, to open to grief and loss, to...

It is a paradox of being human that while so, so much is common to us all, our experience of life is unique. There are no two people who...

In both couples and individual psychotherapy, a common theme in the way clients present is that there is much they want to say in their...

“If we could allow the pace of our meetings to slow down to the pace of our hearts, we might find genuine understanding.” Marion Woodman...

“The greatest changes stem from the darkest experiences. We fall apart to become new. We go through the dark to fly to the sun” Matt...

There is a truth I learned way back in my training that has stuck with me and I wanted to reflect on today. It is the reflection that if...

“Introversion is not something you fix via extroversion. You fix it by seeing it as something not to be fixed. Let introversion exist. ...

Today I want to talk about dissociation, and ways of supporting yourself in coming back into connection when you feel you have detached....

I had an interesting insight the other day as I spotted an old pattern that had popped up and taken root unnoticed. Sitting with a...

"We all need freedom and security, which is why when the world doesn’t feel safe, we often don’t feel as free." Esther Perel At first...

“Don’t fear the dark: it's a natural part of the journey. The most beautiful butterflies emerge from the darkness of the cocoon; the...

Not so long ago, the thought of 'living in sin' as a stable family unit, of same sex marriages, of gay couples raising children or of...

I’m deeply reflective at the moment about the interactive dance that is a therapeutic relationship. Clients come, bringing with them...

I wanted to reflect today on the nature of feeling, which is understandably a recurrent and important theme in therapeutic work. It’s a...

For therapeutic work to be successful, clients need to be feeling regulated, in other words they need to be calm and relaxed, so that...

In recent months I have been delving into Brown and Elliott’s comprehensive book about Attachment Disturbances in Adults. It’s a...

“Healing does not mean wallowing in or identifying with injury. Nor does it mean defensive inaction. It means having the courage to...

I recently came across a cracking set of questions about letting go. If you’ve a sense of it being time to reflect on what energises you...

My weekend poem this week is called The Abyss. I wrote it in 2011. It speaks of trauma, of the fragmentation inside that happens when...