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I learned a new word...and I love learning about language and meanings. So, my word today is antonym. It means the opposite. So, the opposite of dark is light, of up is down, of left is right. Simple, right? Well, not always. Oftentimes in psychotherapy it is very useful to find out what the antonym is for words clients use. For example, a client tells me they do not want to be anxious any more. What does that mean? For one person it may mean they want to be calm. For

“Deep in your wounds are seeds waiting to grow beautiful flowers.” Niti Majethia This idea what what seems to be in the way IS the way is a powerful one.  Wounds call our attention to where it is needed, they offer us the opportunity to heal and grow.  Like water lilies growing beautiful blooms out of the mud at the bottom of a pond, our pain and suffering are the mud of existence that enable us to grow flowers, some robust and in rude health, others seeming impossibly fragil

Here are some of the more common anchors I hear that work for people

Experience is about patterns.  There is structure and form to how we are, to what we perceive and to how we behave.  The work of...

Do you feel you are good enough?  Adequate?  Sufficient?  Acceptable and loveable as you are? If you are not feeling enough, you are not...

An elderly Cherokee was imparting wisdom to his grandson about life. "There's a battle within me," he told the boy, "a fierce clash...

Happiness comes in many guises – on the one hand you’ve got the hedonistic delight of eating your favourite chocolate, on the other is...

I. I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever...

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are” Carl Jung As I reach mid-life and the transition into elderhood, it seems to...

In therapeutic work we are addressing the individual and unique expressions that a person has. At the same time, we are working with...

I had a lesson in transience this week…my gorgeous big cat Jasper accidentally knocked a mug tree off the kitchen bench, and gone were a...

Sometimes it can be hard to discern how we are changing. We tend to think of ourselves as fixed, consistent beings who are steady...

I’ve had a number of experiences recently where I have found myself doing things that were way out of my previous comfort zone. I’m...

I’ve had a number of experiences recently where I have found myself doing things that were way out of my previous comfort zone. I’m...

“The rational mind is a servant. The intuitive mind is a sacred gift. We have created a society that honours the servant and has...

Learning to listen to your intuitive wisdom is an important skill that can help you to make good, congruent decisions in your life. When...

I’m currently reading the beautiful book Helgoland by Carlo Rovelli. It’s quite a read, exploring the current thinking around quantum...

I have a big patch of clover in my back garden. It’s quite prominent, and just now it’s beginning to flower. Beautiful. The thing is,...

Today I want to reflect on a distinction we can make in the way we hold and talk about others, or about aspects of our own self. We talk...

It’s the natural way of things that most people coming into psychotherapy are not feeling emotionally balanced. They may have suffered a...