I’ve had a number of experiences recently where I have found myself doing things that were way out of my previous comfort zone. I’m delighted, and it got me thinking about what it is that has made it possible. The answer was a curious one; I’ve been able to do things that used to feel unsafe and scary because I feel safe. You may be wondering what on earth I mean...I did for a while!
My expanding comfort zone has been a great reminder to me that safety is not just about the environment, it's not just about whether there is a physical threat right here right now. Safety is an internal concept, we feel safe, or unsure, or fearful inside as a response to our past experiences AND to what is happening right now. As meaning making beings, we are continually filtering our world according to our past experiences and expectations and we project ourselves and our past out onto what it is that is happening.
As your experience of the here and now changes, this gives a good indication that your filters are being updated. It’s useful to regularly reflect on what you believe to be true, noticing the assumptions, beliefs and rules of thumb you are unconsciously applying to your life. Which of your filters support and enable you? And which are limiting? Which are just plain out of date?
For now, I’m delighting in the space and capacity to be more adventurous and spontaneous, and the felt sense of safety that is making this possible. Like all things, it will morph and change with time, nothing lasts forever. I’ll be doing what I can to make sure the change is in the direction of expanding possibilities and ease of mind, after all you move towards what you think about.
What helps you to feel safe and at ease? How can you bring more of that into your life?
