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Uncomfortable conversations are OK. Emotions are OK. Real matters. I wrote these three notes to myself a few days ago to remind me that I...

It’s a lovely moment in therapy when a client suddenly gains a new perspective. Oftentimes, the pain that brings people to see me is...

I’ve been preparing my house recently for a home blessing that is coming up. It’s really got me thinking about the impact of space, and...

I took part in some training a short while ago that finished with the wonderful invitation to be fluid, and imperfect. The trainer was...

In several contexts this week I’ve been reminded of the power of being clear about boundaries. The word boundary is a noun, and it’s...

Many moons ago, when I trained in NLP, I was fortunate to have a course rich with content about expanding awareness into that which us...

A colleague who works with families introduced me to a lovely exercise recently that captured my imagination. Aimed at increasing...

So much of human relating is transactional. We live in an economy where most everything has a price. We expect to pay to receive...

I was asked on social media recently to talk about how to overcome boredom in relationships. Here’s a blog extending the soundbites I had...

Now we're into September, families country-wide will be back into the rhythm of school and working weeks after the different pace of the...

A theme in therapeutic work is the way relationships can rupture and repair. Both for couples, and for individuals, this is often a...

May is Maternal Mental Health Month, and it’s a theme that resonates with me. We tend to think of maternal mental health as being a...

Feeling insignificant and invisible while in relationships is sadly not an uncommon experience. Therapeutically and in life more...

I often say I like contact with other people to be real. A few weeks ago, someone curiously asked, what does real mean to me? It was an...

A colleague described beautifully to me the other day the power of unspoken communication in families. You know…the looks. The sighs. ...

I could get all sciency and talk about 20 seconds of physical contact causing the participants to release oxytocin (the love hormone),...

I want to talk today about a simple tool you can use to increase your awareness of how the relationships in your life impact your...

Today I want to talk about the third stage of Erik Erikson’s psychosocial development model, which is one way of explaining the phases we...

Today is national Playday, and this year the organisers are encouraging families, carers, and communities to help children enjoy a Summer...

Couples counselling works best when there is a common goal that is meaningful and congruent for both partners. Where this is not the...