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It’s the holiday season, and I’ve been lucky enough to spend more time than usual with my family. One of the things I have really...

“intimacy is the process of being in touch with or knowing oneself in the presence of a partner” David Schnarch In psychotherapy, it is...

It’s a lovely moment in therapy when a client suddenly gains a new perspective. Oftentimes, the pain that brings people to see me is...

I have a big patch of clover in my back garden. It’s quite prominent, and just now it’s beginning to flower. Beautiful. The thing is,...

Here’s a useful infographic about boundaries. It’s a word bandied about a lot, and it's good to look practically at what it actually...

One of the commitments I have as a psychotherapist is that I am real and authentic with my clients. For me, this is the basis of...

My partner and I stepped out of our comfort zone recently and had a couple of couples massage lessons. Now, lest you fear this post is...

Today I want to reflect on a distinction we can make in the way we hold and talk about others, or about aspects of our own self. We talk...

In several contexts this week I’ve been reminded of the power of being clear about boundaries. The word boundary is a noun, and it’s...

Many moons ago, when I trained in NLP, I was fortunate to have a course rich with content about expanding awareness into that which us...

A colleague who works with families introduced me to a lovely exercise recently that captured my imagination. Aimed at increasing...

I had an interesting conversation recently, reflecting on the tendency people have to ask others ‘what do you do?’ in early conversations...

So much of human relating is transactional. We live in an economy where most everything has a price. We expect to pay to receive...

“A conversation about how you feel is not supposed to end in an argument” The Mind Journal I’ve been reflecting recently on themes of...

I was asked on social media recently to talk about how to overcome boredom in relationships. Here’s a blog extending the soundbites I had...

“The fear of receiving resonates in the deepest levels of the psyche. To receive is to let life happen, to open to grief and loss, to...

It is a paradox of being human that while so, so much is common to us all, our experience of life is unique. There are no two people who...

In both couples and individual psychotherapy, a common theme in the way clients present is that there is much they want to say in their...

“Recognising the difference between power and love is difficult if we were raised in a home where power was disguised as love” Marion...

I created this blog in collaboration with #UKCP a few weeks ago to take a look at the impact of bullying and our collective...