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I took a young child ice skating for the first time recently. It was a quite wonderful experience. Today I thought I'd write about what...

Limiting beliefs can be powerful. After all, the only function of a belief is to prove itself right. Beliefs are not facts, rather they...

You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let...

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ...

Sometimes we have to make decisions that will have significant consequences for us in the future, and it can be hard to know which way to...

In this second blog on the theme of being a psychotherapist, I am exploring the theme of who it is that speaks in psychotherapy. At one...

I was asked recently what it is that I do as a psychotherapist. It would be easy to give a simple answer describing the kinds of clients...

Are you happy? This seems to be a frequently asked question, with a 'right' answer. Happy = good, anything else = a problem. But how...

Intimacy happens when we allow ourselves to be fully seen, and we truly see the person with whom we are intimate. We tend to think of...

In relationships, communication is often an issue. It is very common for couples to draw away from having uncomfortable conversations. ...

A loss of meaning is a painful experience. It may be that a cherished job role no longer seems to have a purpose, hobbies that lose their...

We tend to think of ourselves as matter. A solid, homogenous being that exists within our skin. All that is beyond our skin is therefore...

Mindfulness is now known to be beneficial for mental health. Learning how to let yourself be, allowing thoughts and feelings to arise,...

"I can't burden anyone with this" "Other people have their own problems" "No-one will understand" "I'm too ashamed to tell anyone" There...

“There is nothing I have found, in all my pursuit of pleasure-seeking distraction, that can compare with feeling at home in one’s self....

Loving yourself is something you do every day, in every moment, for the rest of your life. Self-love is a way of living, a practice, and...

As an outcome oriented practitioner, I am interested from the outset of psychotherapy to know what clients would like to have happen. One...

I ought to. I must. I should. I need to. Other people say I should... She says I'd be crazy to... Any of these sound familiar? If so,...

“What’s different about the heart is that the heart doesn’t do calculations. The heart reads energy.” Bruce Lipton It’s a language...

In recent times the invidious practice of gas lighting has been much highlighted. Gaslighting is a form of persistent manipulation and...