• Fe Robinson

Making tricky decisions

Sometimes we have to make decisions that will have significant consequences for us in the future, and it can be hard to know which way to go. A useful technique I have found helps clients in this situation is this:

For your first option, imagine what your life will be like in 6 months time if you take this route. What is happening? What is possible, and what is not possible? Drop into your body and notice how are you feeling as you embody this? What do you think of the decision you took back then as you stand here 6 months on? Capture this in a visual way, with a display of drawings, pictures, magazine cuttings, words...really create something that evokes it.

If you want more insight, extend this experience of the future by exploring how life will be in 12 months, 3 years and 10 years, chunking up or down to whatever timescales make sense for the decision you are making.

Then, repeat this exercise for your second and any other options you have in mind, making sure to be as detailed and thorough with each option.

Once you have placed yourself out in the future and really tried on how life, and you, may be once you are there, you will have much richer information to inform your current decision.

If you want support in exploring options and consequences, then get in touch.

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