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In both couples and individual psychotherapy, a common theme in the way clients present is that there is much they want to say in their...

Sometimes there are no words. Awful things happen to those we love and we simply do not know what to do or say. This can be a very...

Not so long ago, the thought of 'living in sin' as a stable family unit, of same sex marriages, of gay couples raising children or of...

I've been writing recently about regulating your nervous system to be grounded and calm to give yourself the flexibility to feel and...

In recent months I have been delving into Brown and Elliott’s comprehensive book about Attachment Disturbances in Adults. It’s a...

In my reading lately about Trauma and our responses to it, I’ve been drawn to noticing the fawn response, which is not talked about so...

I blogged recently about the cost of not having an ending, of what happens when a relationship just stops, without it’s passing being...

I often say I like contact with other people to be real. A few weeks ago, someone curiously asked, what does real mean to me? It was an...

I’ve recently been reading Daniel Brown and David Elliott’s work about attachment difficulties, which focuses on how to help adults who...

A colleague described beautifully to me the other day the power of unspoken communication in families. You know…the looks. The sighs. ...

I could get all sciency and talk about 20 seconds of physical contact causing the participants to release oxytocin (the love hormone),...

Discovering unconscious patterns I was teaching at Bishop Auckland College last week, introducing some concepts from Neuro-Linguistic...

When people come into therapy to talk about relationship problems, they often feel that there must be something wrong with them. This is...

When relationships end, it can be difficult. Particularly if you did not want things to change. It may be that a romantic relationship...

I want to talk today about a simple tool you can use to increase your awareness of how the relationships in your life impact your...

Today I want to talk about the third stage of Erik Erikson’s psychosocial development model, which is one way of explaining the phases we...

We come to know ourselves through our interactions with other people. It’s a bit like others hold up a mirror to us, we see ourselves...

I’ve been pondering Erik Erikson’s theory of psycho-social development of late, which sets out eight stages of development along our way...

Do you ever hear yourself say something, and think you sounded just like someone else? It may be a parent, partner, friend, child,...