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Sometimes clients come into therapy wanting to be absolved of guilt when they have done something they regret. Guilt is painful, and this...

On a training course a while ago, I heard a metaphor for therapy that I liked. The trainer described the role of a therapist ole as that...

A common reason to come to therapy is because of poor self-image and low self-esteem. You may experience yourself as stupid, bas, ugly,...

Continuing my series on his model, the sixth stage in Erik Erickson’s model of psychosocial development is that of intimacy and...

"Everything you love will probably be lost, but, in the end, love will return in a different way." Franz Kafka This quote touched me...

I had a singing lesson recently from the lovely Rosie at @happyinharmony1 and discovered something that blew my mind. Did you know you...

The fifth stage in Erik Erickson’s model of psychosocial development, which he suggested occurs in adolescence between the ages of 12-18,...

When client’s come into therapy, it’s very common for them to have goals which are about feeling states. They might say ‘I feel...

Week by week I’ve been looking at Erik Erikson’s model of psychosocial development, which is one way of looking at key developmental...

“External events are neutral. They only gain positive or negative value the moment they enter our mind. It’s ultimately up to us how we...

I heard this little ditty on a children’s TV programme this week, it woke me up a bit. Take a moment Take a breath Make a plan and Try...

It’s topical at the moment, the idea of taking responsibility for our own choices and health. This is far from a new idea however. We...

One of the central themes of therapeutic work is how client’s experience their feelings. For some, there is overwhelm. For others, a...

I hate the idea of work-life balance. Why is work treated as an opposite that is somehow separate from life? Most people spend so much...

The work of psychotherapy is vast and deep. Themes running through the many ways it can help are enabling clients to learn how to...

“When your eyes seek and your heart is open, that is true brave” - Anne with an E I just loved this line when I heard it while watching...

When we are traumatised, it is usual to believe we are damaged, broken, and even beyond repair. Ana Gomez has a lovely re-frame for...

Couples counselling works best when there is a common goal that is meaningful and congruent for both partners. Where this is not the...

These words speak so eloquently for themselves, I hope they touch you as they do me. Epitaph - By Merrit Malloy When I die Give what’s...

I discovered recently that the root of the word alone is all-one. Clarissa Pinkola Estes expresses this beautifully, saying “To be all...