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For therapeutic work to be successful, clients need to be feeling regulated, in other words they need to be calm and relaxed, so that...

One of the key jobs of therapeutic work is to help clients to be able to calm their nervous system so that their default way of being...

Today I wanted to blog about increasing vagal tone. The vagus nerves are the longest in our body, and play a key role in the...

“Healing does not mean wallowing in or identifying with injury. Nor does it mean defensive inaction. It means having the courage to...

Out walking a few weeks ago at Fountains Abbey in North Yorkshire, my companion wished the trees could tell us the stories of all they...

I’ve been using this affirmation of late to remind myself that whatever it is that I am experiencing is not ‘mine’ and it’s not stuck. ...

May is Maternal Mental Health Month, and it’s a theme that resonates with me. We tend to think of maternal mental health as being a...

We all have moments when anxiety is higher. When our underlying, day to day tension is high, anxiety peaks can easily become an issue. ...

When a client tells me or shows me they are overwhelmed, what they are describing is an intense experience. For them, moving past the...

It's sometimes the case that we lose perspective. When times are difficult, or emotions are intense, it is easy to imagine that whatever...

Congruence matters. That sense of rightness that you feel in your body that lets you know that what you are doing is aligned with what...

I blogged recently about the cost of not having an ending, of what happens when a relationship just stops, without it’s passing being...

"There is a genius that can be found only in our coming together, and it's our combined abilities that elevate and strengthen us. True...

It seems natural to be distressed when something awful has happened. A death. A traffic accident. Abuse. Faced with situations like...

One of the most useful metaphors I have for the brain is to consider it as a road network. There are some thinking patterns that are...

It is a common wish, isn’t it, the desire to go back. ‘I wish things were the way they used to be’ or ‘I wish we got on like we did...

I want to reflect today on the idea of leaving well. So often in modern living I hear stories of people disappearing from the lives of...

As a psychotherapist and trauma therapist, a big theme in my work is somatic wisdom. The body remembers, we are all mammals, and to...

“Listen to the wind, it talks. Listen to the silence, it speaks. Listen to your heart, it knows.” Native American Proverb, quoted by...

I’ve recently been reading Daniel Brown and David Elliott’s work about attachment difficulties, which focuses on how to help adults who...