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Today I want to talk about the idea of sponsorship. Sponsorship is the process of holding a space open for people to enter, explore, and...

“intimacy is the process of being in touch with or knowing oneself in the presence of a partner” David Schnarch In psychotherapy, it is...

It’s a lovely moment in therapy when a client suddenly gains a new perspective. Oftentimes, the pain that brings people to see me is...

My partner and I stepped out of our comfort zone recently and had a couple of couples massage lessons. Now, lest you fear this post is...

In several contexts this week I’ve been reminded of the power of being clear about boundaries. The word boundary is a noun, and it’s...

So much of human relating is transactional. We live in an economy where most everything has a price. We expect to pay to receive...

“A conversation about how you feel is not supposed to end in an argument” The Mind Journal I’ve been reflecting recently on themes of...

I was asked on social media recently to talk about how to overcome boredom in relationships. Here’s a blog extending the soundbites I had...

A theme in therapeutic work is the way relationships can rupture and repair. Both for couples, and for individuals, this is often a...

When I heard the phrase ‘don’t abandon yourself’ recently, it resonated deeply. It struck me as I pondered that it’s easy sometimes to...

Discovering unconscious patterns I was teaching at Bishop Auckland College last week, introducing some concepts from Neuro-Linguistic...

A consistent theme bringing couples into couples counselling is the loss of their sense of togetherness, a loss of intimacy. I often...

Today I want to reflect on some of the differences between working as a psychotherapist with a couple and with an individual. In a...