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Anger is a healthy, positive emotion that is a message to let us know that our boundaries have been transgressed, or that something has...

You might think this an odd question, it’s certainly a complex one. We each hold many, many beliefs about the world, some of them may...

I’ve been reflecting of late on the way that our perception changes when we are with different people. Seeing the world through the eyes...

My partner and I stepped out of our comfort zone recently and had a couple of couples massage lessons. Now, lest you fear this post is...

I’ve been reminded several times in recent weeks of the power of working with the structure of the way we ‘hold’ experiences, rather than...

I was on a training course recently where there was amble opportunity to observe the power of break states. A break state is when we...

A reader asked me recently to write about the burden of shame. It is always a pleasure to write on topics that are pertinent and...

I am delighted to have recently trained in the NLPt (neuro-linguistic programming psychotherapy) Trauma Protocol, which provides an...

I took part in some training a short while ago that finished with the wonderful invitation to be fluid, and imperfect. The trainer was...

Today I want to reflect on a distinction we can make in the way we hold and talk about others, or about aspects of our own self. We talk...

“What if the symptoms of my illness are trying to heal me?” Marion Woodman We have a saying in neuro-linguistic programming that ‘all...

Today I want to celebrate a much commented on Orchid which sits in my office. Clients often notice it and comment on it. It flowers so...

In several contexts this week I’ve been reminded of the power of being clear about boundaries. The word boundary is a noun, and it’s...

As I write, I have in mind a series of mesmerising sunsets that I have been lucky enough to see recently. Out and about in the car, it...

Many moons ago, when I trained in NLP, I was fortunate to have a course rich with content about expanding awareness into that which us...

It’s the natural way of things that most people coming into psychotherapy are not feeling emotionally balanced. They may have suffered a...

A colleague who works with families introduced me to a lovely exercise recently that captured my imagination. Aimed at increasing...

Here’s a blessing for the weekend, have a good one. “May Light always surround you; Hope kindle and rebound you. May your Hurts turn to...

I opened Matt Haig’s Comfort Book today, and read a beautiful short passage about ‘The Discomfort Zone.’ You know the one, the place...

I had the pleasure of teaching an NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Introduction to a small group of local Counselling Degree students...