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"Everything you love will probably be lost, but, in the end, love will return in a different way." Franz Kafka This quote touched me...

The fifth stage in Erik Erickson’s model of psychosocial development, which he suggested occurs in adolescence between the ages of 12-18,...

I was reading some Esther Perel this week, and happened upon a quote about self-love that really spoke to me. She describes it as “about...

When client’s come into therapy, it’s very common for them to have goals which are about feeling states. They might say ‘I feel...

Week by week I’ve been looking at Erik Erikson’s model of psychosocial development, which is one way of looking at key developmental...

Today I want to talk about the third stage of Erik Erikson’s psychosocial development model, which is one way of explaining the phases we...

Two weeks ago I blogged about stage one of Erik Erikson’s stages of psychosocial development model, today I’m introducing the second...

One of the central themes of therapeutic work is how client’s experience their feelings. For some, there is overwhelm. For others, a...

We come to know ourselves through our interactions with other people. It’s a bit like others hold up a mirror to us, we see ourselves...

I’ve been pondering Erik Erikson’s theory of psycho-social development of late, which sets out eight stages of development along our way...

“When your eyes seek and your heart is open, that is true brave” - Anne with an E I just loved this line when I heard it while watching...

Couples counselling works best when there is a common goal that is meaningful and congruent for both partners. Where this is not the...

I was recently asked some excellent questions: Where do I live as a therapist? What lenses do I use to see through the clinical landscape...

A theme I often return to is play, and its importance. I was first introduced to this concept back in 2008 by Stephen Gilligan with his...

Time is a funny thing, while sometimes minutes can feel like hours, it’s also true that there are a limited number of hours in the week....

In my twenties, I recall going on a Dale Carnegie training course, and being told ‘seek first to understand, and then to be understood.’ ...

This is a question I ask each person who comes to see me for psychotherapy, in their first session. We talk about what is bringing them,...

I’ve been looking out of my therapy room window, noticing the increasingly long grass of my newly laid lawn. I’ve read so many...

Humans have a natural bias towards the negative. In order to survive, like any animal, we need to be aware of risks and danger. Being...

“There are so many ways to dance in the dark with our dragons. Therapy is an art.” These words were the conclusion of a training I...