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Congruence matters. That sense of rightness that you feel in your body that lets you know that what you are doing is aligned with what...

It seems natural to be distressed when something awful has happened. A death. A traffic accident. Abuse. Faced with situations like...

One of the most useful metaphors I have for the brain is to consider it as a road network. There are some thinking patterns that are...

It is a common wish, isn’t it, the desire to go back. ‘I wish things were the way they used to be’ or ‘I wish we got on like we did...

“In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s mind there are few” Shunryu Suzuki I was reminded of this familiar...

Feeling insignificant and invisible while in relationships is sadly not an uncommon experience. Therapeutically and in life more...

“When I am at home with myself, everything I do ends as a love poem” Yeats What we experience depends on our state, on our way of being,...

As a psychotherapist and trauma therapist, a big theme in my work is somatic wisdom. The body remembers, we are all mammals, and to...

I’ve recently been reading Daniel Brown and David Elliott’s work about attachment difficulties, which focuses on how to help adults who...

It's more years since I care to remember since I first came across the idea of Character Strengths, back then I was working in the...

A colleague described beautifully to me the other day the power of unspoken communication in families. You know…the looks. The sighs. ...

Anger is an unpopular emotion, and frankly it gets quite a bad press. The caricature of an angry person is red faced, steam coming out...

We’re not always in touch with all of the capability, wisdom and resourcefulness we have inside. While we are all multi-faceted, it's...

Discovering unconscious patterns I was teaching at Bishop Auckland College last week, introducing some concepts from Neuro-Linguistic...

“Trauma represents a profound compression of “survival” energy, energy that has not been able to complete its meaningful course of...

“Everything flows, out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum-swing manifests in everything; the...

As you prepare for 2022, it’s a good time to reflect on both the year past and the year to come. Here’s an article I wrote for #UKCP...

Sometimes it is easy to lose trust in what you are experiencing. It may be that someone else somehow undermines you, convincing you that...

When people come into therapy to talk about relationship problems, they often feel that there must be something wrong with them. This is...

There are two key questions that many clients want to address when they come for an initial session of psychotherapy, and they are...