
When you are feeling vulnerable or low, life does not stop happening. Relationships end, jobs change, people we love pass away, and a wide variety of other deeply upsetting things can happen. They can exacerbate troubling feelings and even feel like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Sometimes, people perceive they are too upset to go into psychotherapy. They fear they may become too emotional, or that therapy may stir up too much distress and make matters worse.
Psychotherapy is not a conditional space. Its somewhere where you can drop the usual social conventions of needing to be OK, of being expected to hold it together.
The times when you feel really rubbish are the times when you are well advised to show up, to be there, to let some support in.
I've had so many times when a client has been hesitant to come, and then feels much better after a session. It's not always the case, but more often than not, it helps. This puts me in mind of the old adage 'a problem shared is a problem halved.'
If in doubt, let it out. Check out what is holding you back from expressing what is true for you. It's absolutely fine not to share, it's always a choice. That said, if what stops you is feeling afraid or unworthy, then maybe stepping out of your comfort zone might help.
If you are struggling with life events and are unsure if psychotherapy will help, why not find a local practitioner and give it a go?
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