• Fe Robinson

Control is an illusion

It is a frequent problem for clients that they feel out of control. In times of change, things we take for granted are no longer so solid, it can be as if everything around us is suddenly jelly like and not to be relied on.


The irony is, there is a life lesson in this. There are no certainties other than death. All we have is ever changing, things do not stay constant or consistent. We are continuously adapting to small changes, it's just that we might not notice them.


When you feel like you need to get back in control, instead ask yourself how you can become more comfortable with uncertainty. This truly is a useful endeavour.





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