Psychotherapy and Counselling
How psychotherapy can help you
Sometimes working out what kind of therapy you want, and who you want to see for it can be a daunting task. To help you, I've explained here the way I work and some of the reasons clients have come to see me in the past.
Psychotherapy supports you in working out what is happening for you at the moment and in finding your own ways forward. You can expect my undivided attention to help you in making sense of what you need and want. I will creatively support you as you explore your current challenges and, if you want to, begin to make changes that leave you feeling better. For some people it is enough in therapy to learn to cope with what you find challenging; for others therapy is about personal change and putting painful symptoms into the past. People seek support not only to help them through emotional difficulties, but also to enrich and enliven the lives they lead.
Example client issues:
- Coming to terms with past events and post-traumatic stress disorder: flashbacks, panic attacks, heightened anxiety, lack of sleep, anger and low mood are all common symptoms of unresolved traumas. As an EMDR therapist I am able to help clients build the strength to be able to face and overcome events that impact them here and now, putting them in the past where they belong. This includes working with abuse from childhood or in adult life.
- Lack of self-worth, and identity issues: Sometimes clients have lost a sense of who they are, and what matters to them, and do not value themselves. I am here to help develop a sense of what matters to you and how you want to bring that to life.
- Attachment difficulties: Some clients have had difficult childhoods, in which they did not experience much love, or were often afraid. This may leave you feeling hard to love, and/or ambivalent about other people. Therapy can help develop a sense of love for yourself and others.
- Feeling low or depressed: sometimes clients are finding it hard to look after themselves and to do simple day to day activities. Others may be managing to do what they need to but feel that they have no purpose or hope for the future.
- Feeling anxious or continually on edge (generalised anxiety disorder): many clients find they are worrying a great deal, with thoughts that run away with them or repeat in endless loops. Some have specific anxieties about certain situations, people or activities which they want to overcome.
- Loss and bereavement: losing someone close is a dreadfully difficult experience, sometimes we become stuck in our grief and are unable to move on without help. Traumatic deaths can also complicate recovery.
- Relationship issues, family issues and child related issues: many clients come wanting to make positive differences to their relationships, or to overcome painful memories from the past.
- Emotional abuse, sexual abuse and domestic violence: having worked in a domestic abuse setting during my training I have a lot of experience of helping both women and men with these personal and difficult issues
- Separation and divorce: the end of a relationship is a loss for which we grieve, even if we may have chosen to leave. I have worked with many people coming to terms with relationship loss, and the challenge of adjusting to a new life.
- Low self-esteem: You may find you put everyone else before yourself, or that others seem to disregard your needs and expect you to fulfil theirs. Low self-esteem can be triggered from a wide range of other symptoms but in itself becomes self-fulfilling.
- Panic attacks / panic disorder: Panic is far more common than people realise, and can be extremely debilitating. Fortunately it is a condition that therapy can help quickly and effectively, however severe the attacks.
- Stress: When our ability to cope is overwhelmed by the demands put on us, we can become unwell physically and mentally at an alarming speed. Clients may be facing stress at work, at home, in social settings or a range of other ways.
- Phobias: being unable to face specific situations can be very debilitating and leave people isolated and afraid. I can work with a range of phobias including agoraphobia
- A search for meaning and spirituality: finding a connection beyond ourselves, and living a meaningful life are important themes for many clients, in a secular way therapy can help clients to work out their own meaning and spirituality
- Obsessions, compulsions and obsessive compulsive disorder: Finding yourself ruminating about something continually, or feeling compelled to act in certain ways (for example repeatedly checking locks or arranging things at home in particular patterns) can be time-consuming and upsetting, getting in the way of day to day life
- Addictions and leaning too heavily on supports such as alcohol & drugs: When we feel unable to cope we may use external supports such as substances, computer usage or other addictions to help us through. I have experience of helping clients unravel habits which once seemed an answer but now are a new problem.
- Sexuality/sexual difficulties: when we are finding things tough, one of the places they often show up markedly is in our sex life. Therapy is a place where clients can talk openly about intimate issues, whether your sexual issue is a symptom of a wider problem or the main thing that is causing you angst.
- Chronic fatigue syndrome and chronic pain: using Mindfulness I have been able to help clients both manage, and lessen symptoms of fatigue and pain.
It is not possible to give an exhaustive list here, you may want to talk about something you don't see mentioned. We are all unique, and our needs are no less individual. My role is to help you unfold and move along the path that is right for you.
I offer psychotherapy in Sherburn Village near Durham on Monday afternoons, Tuesday mornings and Wednesdays and Fridays during office hours. Please get in touch to book an introductory session.